If there’s one thing that most of us can agree on, it’s that the right piece of lingerie can really heighten a sexual experience.
But finding just the right piece can be a challenge. What works for one person’s body may not be as flattering on another.
And to complicate things even further, some lingerie just doesn’t pair well with BDSM activities.
Sometimes, you want to look hot, but you also want access for impact play, or you want O-rings for lead and leash play.
Fortunately, you only need to know a few things to look for in order to make sure the lingerie you select is right for you and the kinky fun you want to have.
I’ve found 10 sexy outfits that all enhance BDSM or bondage play, and I want to tell you all about how they work.
Our Pick:
Cottelli Wet Look and Mesh Bondage
Our experts agree that this is the number 1 pick. It’s our favorite piece of lingerie in this category and we think it appeals to the most amount of people.
It gets a full 5 stars! Read more reviews on the vendor website here:
What to Look for in BDSM Lingerie
Standard lingerie is mostly about how the wearer looks. Lingerie that’s good for BDSM is also about aesthetics, but there are a few other things you may want to consider, as well…
How Does it Fit?
Fit is important for any clothing or lingerie, and the good news is that you can find BDSM lingerie that fits nearly any body type. (You’ll find items for various sizes and genders in the list of items I suggest below.)
In addition to sizing and selecting items that match your body type, you may also want to consider how much movement the piece allows for. Is it comfortable to bend or stretch in? This may be important for some types of bondage.
Perhaps you’re looking for something restrictive that limits your movement? Again, keep in mind the type of play you want to do during the time you’re wearing the lingerie.
Does it Provide Play Access?
Many pieces of lingerie for BDSM leave the breasts, butt, or crotch uncovered. This can be sexy any time, but for BDSM activities, it can really make a difference in what types of play can be enjoyed (and to what level).
For instance, leaving certain areas exposed allows for spanking, whipping, flogging, or pinching those areas without having to remove the lingerie.
Is it Comfortable?
My feeling on lingerie is that it should always be comfortable. It’s hard to feel sexy when you’re fighting with your clothes. Although some aspects of BDSM and bondage play put you in situations that are intentionally uncomfortable, your sexy garments should not be the thing causing your discomfort (unless that is a particular fetish of yours).
How Durable is it and How Durable do You Need it to be?
Different items are made of different materials, and some simply hold up better than others. Now, with lingerie that’s just for looking at, durability may not be a big issue, but when it comes to BDSM, your clothing is more likely to get roughed up.
Depending on the type of play you do, you may need materials that are:
- Stretchy
- Unlikely to snap, break, or rip
- Easy to rip
- Water resistant
Common materials include PVC, faux leather, latex, mesh, fishnet, and nylon. Buy with your particular needs in mind.
What Mood do You Want to Feel?
One of the most important things to consider when it comes to selecting lingerie is how it makes you feel. Different pieces can evoke a number of different feelings, like:
- Power
- Submission
- Playfulness
- Youthfulness
- Authority
- Strength
- Sexiness
There are many other moods and feelings you may want to access through the use of lingerie. It’s kind of like a costume for sexy play time. And if you are participating in BDSM or bondage play, establishing the right mood is key.
My suggestion is that when you look at or try on a piece of lingerie, you ask yourself how it makes you feel and what emotions it evokes. Go with your instinct.
Now that you know what to look for, here are the pieces I suggest for getting in the mood…
Top 10 Lingerie Outfits for Kinky Fun
These 10 pieces of lingerie all have kinksters and BDSM enthusiasts in mind:
1. Cottelli Wet Look and Mesh Bondage Teddy with Arm Restraints
Like the other teddies on this list, this one is crotchless for play access. However, the crotch access on this lingerie is far superior to the others, in that it has a dual direction zipper. Yes, that means anal fun is possible, too!
I really like the contrasting look of the “wet look” fabric and sheer mash. The attached arm restraints are very sexy for fetish events or providing submissive service. That being said, they would not be durable enough for rough, physical play.
The breast openings also have zippers, allowing versatility or a sexy nipple reveal.
Pros:
- Flattering wet look and sheer contrast
- Sexy arm restraints enhance submissive play
- Zippers at breasts and crotch add excitement to play
- Lower opening allows for genital and anal access
- Includes detachable garters for stockings
Cons:
- Arm restraints are not detachable
- Length is a bit snug for those with long torsos
2. Cottelli Wet Look and Lace Open Cup Bra Set with Wrist Ties
This Cottelli outfit contrasts wet look fabric with sheer, black lace. It’s an interesting blend of feminine and hardcore styling, with ribbon wrist restraints but decorative chains at the chest and crotch. Very nice for a submissive slave look.
The wrist restraints are only for very light bondage. Also, the choker and chains are optional and can be detached for a softer, less hardcore look.
Pros:
- Sexy wet look and lace contrast
- Leaves breasts open for play and torture
- Comfortable
Cons:
- Not sturdy enough to use the metal rings for heavy bondage
3. Lovehoney Dangerous Curves Sheer Suspender Bodystocking
Bodystockings are so sexy and flattering on a lot of different body types. This one comes in red or black and is available in standard size and plus size. Rather than fully covering the body—like a catsuit—this lingerie is a short, sheer halter dress with attached stockings.
The dress style leaves the butt partially exposed, making it perfect for spankings
Pros:
- Feels amazing; comfortable
- Inexpensive
- Stretchy one size or plus size
- Available in red or black
- Good for spankings
Cons:
- Suspenders tend to stretch out
- Buttons on the neck can be difficult to use
4. Lovehoney Crotchless Lace Spaghetti Strap Teddy
Like the previous piece of lingerie, this revealing teddy also comes in both standard size and plus size. And it is available in black or white stretch lace. It has a floral lace pattern that provides a balance between showing off your body and concealing a bit.
The open crotch provides access for fun with toys! Although the lace can catch on nipple piercings, you could easily remedy that with tape or a pasty over the piercing.
Pros:
- Comfortable and flattering
- Inexpensive
- Stretchy one size or plus size
- Available in white or black
- Accessible for many toys
Cons:
- Crotch opening isn’t long enough for anal play
- Lace catches on nipple piercings
5. DOMINIX Deluxe Open Breast Leather Body Harness with Cuffs (Unisex)
This leather body harness adds sexiness while leaving pretty much the whole body open to play. And even better, the design is unisex, meaning individuals of any gender can add mood to their BDSM scene with this piece!
The harness is size adjustable with buckles and comes in two size options. It also includes quick-release wrist cuffs and several O-rings for bondage or lead play.
Pros:
- Access to lots of body parts for play
- Can work for any gender
- Durable construction
- Pleasant leather smell
- Size adjustable
Cons:
- Not suitable for those who don’t wear animal products
- Can be uncomfortable for prolonged wear
6. Exposed Lust Studded Wet Look Open Cup Crotchless Teddy
The wet look of this black teddy is extremely sexy.
It’s good for Domme play, as the sexy look and hardcore emellishments are empowering.
Pros:
- Metal studs provide a hardcore look
- Good for spanking
- Breast access for clamps and other sensation play
- Accessible for some toys
Cons:
- Crotch opening isn’t especially convenient or comfortable
- The straps may not fit or flatter all body types
7. Hypnotic Swirl Cupless & Crotchless Teddy
This nylon mesh teddy is similar to the Exposed Lust Studded Wet Look Open Cup Crotchless Teddy, except that it has a softer look with feminine swirls rather than the edgy, studded look of the other teddy. One of my favorite things about this one is it comes in colors!—red, blue, or black.
String ties in back, open breasts, and an open crotch leave access for a variety of play types and toys.
Pros:
- Access to breasts, butt, and genitals
- Pretty design
- Available in 3 different colors
- Available in 3 sizes, including plus
Cons:
- Sizes run small
- Crotch opening isn’t especially convenient or comfortable
8. Male Power Poseidon Fetish Thong and Shorts
Although there seem to be fewer lingerie options for men, every now and then you find a fun option like these shorts that are styled like chaps. They come in two sizes, and the “posing pouch” is removable with Velcro closures.
The open design is great for sensory play, and they also have an O-ring at the crotch for attaching a lead. Nice for guys who like to show off or feel submissive.
Pros:
- Comfortable, stretchy fabric
- Metal studs add hardcore aesthetic
- Removable penis pouch
- Exposes butt and genitals for play
Cons:
- Fit of the pouch and thong may not accommodate all body types
9. Male Power Jouster Pouch Thong
For guys who like a revealing yet manly look, this is a sexy piece of lingerie. The black, studded design is ideal for Dominant or submissive men. It’s also made out of a stretchy, comfortable fabric with a roomy pouch.
Because the thong is held together with multiple O-rings, you can attach chains, ropes, leashes, and other types of leads or decorative chains, adding to the types of fun you can have with these. Unlike the shorts listed above, the pouch on this thong is not removable.
Pros:
- Stretchy, comfortable fabric
- O-rings allow leads and leashes to be attached
- Roomy pouch fits most sizes
Cons:
- Pouch is not removable
- Click here to learn more about the Male Power Jouster Pouch Thong
10. Dreamgirl Fishnet Thong-Back Teddy and Wrist Cuffs
I may be a bit biased about this teddy because I love fishnet lingerie. This piece is revealing and edgy with wrist cuffs that match the studded, faux leather collar. The back of the teddy comes together with D-rings and a metal clip, and you could attach your own chains or leads to the D-rings, as well.
The included wrist restraints can also be attached to the D-rings to keep hands behind the back. Note that fishnet can catch on nipple piercings, but you can cover the piercings with tape or pasties.
Pros:
- Edgy, sexy look
- D-rings provide fun bondage options
- Collar fastens easily with Velcro
- Comfortable
Cons:
- Nipple piercings can get caught in fishnet
- Only one size, which may not fit smaller or larger individuals well
Most Versatile Piece of BDSM Lingerie
My favorite piece of lingerie in this set is:
The Cottelli Wet Look and Mesh Bondage Teddy with Arm Restraints.
Teddies are flattering on so many different body types, and this one comes in four different sizes for a good fit. I love the contrast between the opaque wet look fabric and sheer mesh.
The thing that really sets this lingerie apart from the rest, however, is the fun zippers at the breasts and crotch, and the fact that the crotch zipper opens all the way back for anal play, too. The other crotchless options just can’t compete with the access level provided by this piece.
The arm restraints on this teddy are a nice touch that really adds to the submissive aesthetic. That being said, you could definitely wear this is a Dominant piece and just not use the restraints.
