You have probably been there before. You and your boyfriend have been dating for over a year and one day you wake up feeling a little bored with the relationship. He calls and it almost feels like a chore to answer your cellphone. So instead, you let it go to voice mail while you find something more exciting to do.
Maybe you have been married for two years when you hear the “ding” to alert you that you just got a text message. You look down to see your wife’s name and you suddenly notice that receiving text messages from her just don’t excite you the way that it used to.
Or maybe in recent weeks you and your best friend have been growing apart because you really just don’t enjoy each other’s company anymore. These patterns are seen all too frequently in relationships. The excitement diminishes with time and the relationship is severely impacted.
If you have been in any kind of relationship for over six months, then you probably already know that things really can get pretty stagnant. When the excitement and the newness begin to fade away, then you can be left feeling bored and antsy. So what are some things that you can do to keep the “pizzazz” going in your relationships? Whether you’re trying to revive your marriage or rebuild a friendship with your best buddy, here are five great date ideas.
- Recreate your first date or visit places that you went when you first met. Going down memory lane can really be helpful with reviving relationships. You get to laugh about old times and remember all of the great moments that you’ve experienced together. This experience could help remind you about the great things that brought you together in the first place.
- Try infusing excitement into dates. Excitement makes you experience more passion for the other person. This could be romantic passion but also includes passion for the friendship itself. So try going on outings that bring an element of excitement. Going on a treasure hunt or experiencing other activities that elicit a sense of mystery are great options. Alternatively, you could try out something that builds adrenaline rush like roller coasters or parasailing.
- Plan a play date. Nothing relaxes people more than releasing your responsibilities for a day and spending time being silly and carefree. If you want to revive your relationship, leave the kids at home, keep the work at the office, ditch the worries at the door – and do something really fun and silly. Roller skating, laser tag, going to the arcade, or even going to a bounce house are great ideas for your play date.
- Get physical. No, it’s not what you’re thinking, although it could certainly lead to that! Get the adrenaline pumping by working out together or going on a long hike. Research shows that the arousal of physical activities tricks the brain into thinking that the arousal is because of the relationship itself. This will cause you to enjoy each other’s company much more and when done regularly, it will really do wonders for your relationship.
- Learn together. There are so many classes that are being offered in most cities and towns. You could take dance lessons, a cooking class, or even learn how to make pottery together. If there’s something in particular you are both interested in, perhaps something you bonded over when your relationship began, seek out a way to get back in to that activity.
Relationships really are priceless and the last thing that you want to do is to jeopardize a partner or friend due to boredom. Instead, figure out a way to revive the relationship. And these five date ideas would be a fantastic start!