When the holiday season comes around and you begin to reflect upon the year that has once again quickly come and gone you may be filled with pride or disappointment at what you’ve accomplished. While some compile long lists filled with lofty goals that they want to complete by the year’s end, others set out to finally make that one dream that they always wanted to come true. Whether 2014 was a year of triumph or disappointment, lets take a deep breath and parse out the hidden nature of goals so we can come to a better understanding of how they become a reality.
When we make resolutions for ourselves, we are essentially wishing for self-betterment. We see a part of ourselves that we want to improve and so we piece together a plan to make that part better than it was before. For example, one of the biggest goals that people set for themselves is to lose weight. While this is a fine goal to have, there are many reasons why someone may not have accomplished it the way they set out to on January 1st. First of all, you have to identify why you made that goal in the first place. Do you want to lose weight because you want to lose it, or are you losing it to impress other people? As soon as you hesitate with that response the problem arises. If you are not doing something for yourself and yourself only, the goal you made will fall to the wayside for something more important very quickly. Why? Because you don’t want it for you. Maybe you want something completely different and that’s okay!
Your goal has to inspire you each step of the way, otherwise it won’t unfold how it should. It will feel forced and like a chore, and who wants to do chores? While everything you want to achieve will be hard work, the work should be fun and motivating. You should want to do this thing with every fiber of your being, otherwise it is not worth doing! That is how dreams become a reality, because you can’t picture yourself not achieving it. So how do we come up with goals that inspire us? To me, this comes with an immense amount of self-awareness. You have to know who you are to know what you want. When you know yourself, coming up with goals that suit you and inspire you comes naturally. So, without further adieu, here is my advice to those who did not achieve their goals this year:
Now, before you quickly scroll past because this seems completely out of your element, just trust me for a minute. When I began to set out time in my day to just sit with myself and listen, huge changes started to happen. Not only did I relieve stress and center myself for the remainder of the day, but it gave me a chance to slow everything down and cultivate a sense of self. Usually, I set an intention for my meditation so that I know what I want to focus on during that session. If you want to get to know yourself better, make that your intention. If you want to know what you should do next to achieve a goal you’ve been working at, do that. You’ll be surprised what comes into fruition when you take the time to sit and listen. In fact, a few ideas for this article came about for me during meditation! I challenge you to start with just 10 minutes a day and see how it feels!
Take time for yourself
Maybe you didn’t accomplish your goal because you simply didn’t have time to! It is almost too easy to get wrapped up in the grind of everyday life and forget about what we really want for ourselves. It’s almost like we have our set routines and go into auto-pilot for the day and before we know it, it has passed. Make sure you are not overworking yourself and have time to make your dreams a reality! Set time aside for yourself everyday. When you do that, not only will you have more energy to accomplish your goals because you recharged your batteries, but you also will lead a much happier life because it is more filled with what you like doing.
Every day is a new day
Don’t let the calendar define when you make resolutions for yourself. You can begin working towards your goal at any point in time. If you look back on the year and realize that you didn’t work as hard as you could have one a particular aspect of your life, you can literally change that in the very next moment. All you have to do is take matters into your own hands and begin to take steps toward your goal. If you aren’t sure of what you want to achieve, do something that makes you a little bit better than you were the day before. Spice things up! Try a new recipe, a new workout, read a book you’ve been eyeing, do anything that makes you happy and fulfilled.
While you may not have achieved everything you set out to this year, as you reflect on 2014 I invite you to reflect on what you did accomplish. Maybe it wasn’t what you had planned, but who cares? Take time and celebrate your accomplishments, whatever they may be, and practice some self-love and acceptance instead of dwelling on the negative. Here’s wishing you a happy and safe new year filled with hope!