Maintaining a good relationship with your partner or spouse is complicated enough. However, if one (or both) partner(s) has to travel for business, it becomes even more complicated.
According to the latest statistics, 50 percent of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. Travel can add a great amount of stress to the relationship. The good news is that you can maintain a healthy relationship and travel too, but you will have to be willing to make some lifestyle changes and put in extra effort.
I have been with my husband for 28 years and for the first part of our marriage he was traveling the world for his job. It was a very difficult time in our marriage, but we were able to work through it. I am now a stress management coach and work with many married couples in my practice. I love sharing my story with them and also sharing tips for maintaining a healthy relationship. Here are a few of those that you can use if you have a busy travel schedule:
- Make sure to talk, text or email frequently when you are away. Always keep the communication line open. Lack of communication is very detrimental to a marriage.
- Try romantic gestures like sending cute text messages, e-cards or even flowers to the hotel room.
- Always keep a photo of your loved ones in your wallet to remind you of what you are missing.
- Say “I love you” frequently. You can never say those words too much.
- When you are both at home, make sure to spend quality time together. Do fun things that you both enjoy together and go out on some dates.
- If you have children, make sure you are spending time with them too. Your entire family will benefit from time spent bonding.
- Learn how to manage emotional stress, so that you are not taking out your problems on each other.
- When you are together, make sure to be present at all times with your spouse or partner. Really listen to what they say to you.
- Show that you are interested in your spouse or partner by asking them questions, for example, “How did your trip go?” or “What was your least favorite and most favorite part of the trip?”
- Be respectful of one another and do things to make each other feel appreciated.
- Try not to get into arguments when you are both together, since your time together is very short. If you do get into an argument, never go to bed angry.
- Do not hold in your feelings. Communicate with your partner and share feelings before they become a problem. When you hold them in, you will create tension in your marriage, and thentension and illness in your body. Without monitoring this, you may find yourself feeling resentful.
- Be supportive of your spouse when they are having problems with their job or have a difficult trip.
I hope that these tips are helpful for you!
Kimberly Palm C.M.I.
Kimberly Palm, C.M.I. is a mother of two and the owner of Body & Mind Healing, LLC where she works as a stress management coach, certified meditation instructor, medical intuitive, public speaker and author. For more information about her or her programs, please visit her website http://healyourmindbody.com