Your wedding should be the happiest time of your life, right? Unfortunately, the time leading up to that big day can be stressful, so it’s important to deal with that stress before it impacts your judgement, your wedding and even your health. Here are some tips for managing wedding stress.
Lots of different elements parts go into a wedding, so it’s natural to feel overwhelmed by all of them. If there’s more being asked of you than you can possibly do, don’t hesitate to reach out to someone for assistance. The friends and family members who will be there with you on the day of the wedding can be with you all the way through the planning as well, so feel free to recruit their skills and assistance where it is needed.
It seems like everyone has an opinion on what should happen at a wedding, but it’s not about them. It’s about the people getting married, so the ceremony and reception should reflect their wishes. It can be exhausting to try to please everyone, so instead, remember to focus on pleasing yourself and your partner. There are plenty of opportunities to have fun when planning a wedding. Continue to remind yourself that activities like picking out flowers and tasking cake should be fun, not stressful.
Rome wasn’t built in a day, and no wedding is planned in a single day either, so don’t stress if it takes time for the plans to come together. Remember to enjoy the planning process by allowing yourself time to do so. Don’t let the pressure of wedding planning impact your judgement where it really counts such as eating, sleeping or making time for the things that make you happy. A wedding — even a big one — is no excuse to put life or health on pause.
Acknowledge Cold Feet
Entering a marriage is a major life decision, so it’s reasonable to feel hesitant. A nap, a snack or a thoughtful discussion may help ease your mind and body. Remember why you’re committing to your partner by reflecting on their great qualities and the happiness you have together. If you find that you’re making a decision you’re not comfortable with, it’s never too late to change it. Whatever you do, do not rush into or out of an engagement.
Enjoy the Big Day
It’s easy to feel like the wedding work is just beginning on the day of the wedding, but in truth, all of the planning and preparation is done. Leave the work to the professionals or those you’ve enlisted to help out. Any small details that may be missing or wrong aren’t worth the worry — you will still have a great day and a great wedding Take the time to enjoy the day, and take time to step back if that’s what you need. Don’t forget to eat, stay hydrated and breathe during the commotion.
Focus on What’s Important
A wedding is one day. It is a time to share your love with friends and family members, but most importantly, it marks the beginning of a marriage. A lifelong marriage, not a ceremony or a party, is the purpose of your wedding, and the wedding itself is not a predictor of a great marriage.
About the Author
Grace Glover is a junior at Beloit College, where she serves as the lead programmer of student engagement and leadership. She is passionate about increasing access to behavioral health care